If you’ve found your way into personal development at some point in your life, you may have noticed that the focus is on growth. After awhile it might seem like it’s supposed to be a linear steady climb to heal your wounds and overcome your challenges. The beginning of my journey was like this.

When I was merged with toxic wellness culture I fed into the lie that I needed to be fixed. This led to me spending 10’s of thousands of dollars on programs, coaches, and healers because I believed they had the answers.

We can merge with wellness culture and take on the “right” language and ways of being, but still lack in our sense of self.

Merging is not healing.

I did this in the beginning. I merged with what was being taught.

The term Spiritual Bypassing was coined by the Buddhist teacher and psychotherapist, John Weldwood in the early 1980’s. As defined by John, it’s the tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds and unfinished developmental tasks.